Dinner for 60

I think about hosting a dinner party for 60 girls and women.  Each year of me, showing up together to look back and look forward; to connect dots and notice patterns.  The dream allows me to reflect on my origin stories.  And also, to witness my growth and evolution as a full-grown human.  

Dinner for 60.

This is who I am; who I have always been.

Adaptable. Fostered by a childhood that saw me in 5 different schools in 5 years, I think my ability to adapt, make friends and settle into new environments started at a young age, has served me well during my 3-year nomad adventure.

A Leader. That 8^th grade student body president definitely shows up at the party.  So did the young adult that organized group meals, travel, and celebrations for all of her friends.  These were the footprints for a consulting career in leadership training and coaching.  Once a GSD, always a GSD (get sh*t done).

Brings Order to Chaos.  School girl Barbara adhered to deadlines and schedules.  She was a rule follower.  The adult version didn’t stray very far.  Career success and advancement have been predicated on supporting strong leaders and paying attention to detail.  Throughout, I have been a master Tetris player and view life through that lens:  fit boxes together, clear rows.

Overcomes Adversity.  Life has life’d and has provided some hurdles along the way.  Family financial challenges, losses of key people, health issues, failed relationships, lost jobs.  Each challenge has been an opportunity to learn and grow stronger.  Current me is better equipped to face challenges and get to the other side.

Yes, I Can.  I was raised in a home where it was believed I could do anything.  My parents’ support in providing every opportunity shaped how I parent.  With a prioritization of education, I was encouraged to try sports, theater, dance, explore different areas of interest and ultimately find the career that best suited me.  This unwavering support empowered me to walk away from law school (in my third year).  And to move cross country without a job or a plan, where I ultimately found my destiny.

Generous.  Sharing your riches:  talents, time, treasure has always been a part of my ethos.  Raising money for charity, volunteering, fostering a larger view of community and the obligation of Tikkun Olam (repairing the world).  My earlier self planted the seeds that have grown into commitments to give back and be generous always. 

So, as I start a new decade and celebrate a milestone birthday, I would tell the 8-year-old version of myself that she will make friends at her next new school and throughout her life.  She will meet her people and hold them close, never really losing any of them as she grows.  

I would tell my 14-year-old self that she is not experiencing her last heartbreak.  That her heart will hurt and heal again and again and again.

And I would tell all 60 versions of myself that the ability to give is also a responsibility and privilege to be generous.  

If you would think of sending me a card for my birthday, or buy me a treat or drink, my birthday wish is that you make a donation to Reverse Rett.  Your donation will fund critical research to find a cure for Rett Syndrome for my Aries birthday twin and cousin Zoe.  Happy Birthday to us!

May my 60^th year help me expand to a better version of myself while honoring all of the previous versions.  I am truly blessed.  Thanks for coming to the party!